Does the decline of chivalry help or hurt women?

Rebecca (Helps women):

Chivalry is dead; it is a long gone notion of a standard for men, and the rules to which they uphold in terms of the opposite sex. Long gone are the days of opening doors, standing aside, and depending on the man. Traditionally, women depended on men for financial support, housing, and well-being. That not only took away a woman’s rights, but her own beliefs as well. Chivalry impacted women in a way that was detrimental to their physical, mental, and emotional health. Women became dependent, lesser versions of themselves, and ultimately docile. For example, when a man opens the door for a woman, she is taught to rely on him. Filling a woman’s gas tank, offering her your jacket, and constantly giving compliments are more suggestions of chivalrous nature. All of these niceties might seem wonderful, but when you dig deeper, they bring women down a peg. She becomes dependent, oblivious to her own needs, and entirely focused on going through life without thought to herself as an independent capable of so much more. With the uproot of chivalry, something changed the tides. Women can stand alone. The mere suggestion of freedom from men is life-changing. With a broader scope of availability in the workplace, women can be seen as equals among men. Women can reach farther in all arenas, the workplace and at home. They can become highly paid executives, all star athletes, and even attempt to push past that metaphorical glass ceiling. Instead of relying on men, women are power houses themselves, capable of changing the world. 

James (Hurts women):

Chivalry is suffering a death of a thousand papercuts by the resurgence of the feminism movement. And while the fight for gender equality is a necessary cause, the unintended victims are women themselves. Chivalry is a system of moral codes to protect the innocent, the poor and the defenseless. But the codes protected the integrity of honor, nobility, piety, and civility. Indeed, chivalry countered both disempowerment and oppression. The beginning of the end was a gradual decline. As modern warfare advanced, there was less need for knights and their highly principled mentality on the battlefields. Considering the origins of chivalry, we can surmise that chivalry is more about behavioral expectations concerned with honor, grace, and mercy, than it is about considering women weak or incapable. Chivalry was practiced to preserve civility and piety. To conclude anything contrary is to disregard it as a moral code by which to conduct oneself. The decline, and certainly death, of chivalry is further perpetuated by the modern feminist movement that demands a woman is capable of opening her own door, pulling out her own chair, or paying for her own meal, and that anything contrary to that ideal is to suggest a woman’s lesser worth. The reality is that good manners and polite gestures are different from socio-political issues of gender equality and sexism. The same critics that blast chivalry as being overtly oppressive also feel that somehow being referred to as a “lady” is soft-sexism. The death of chivalry at the hands of ultra-feminists is causing a rapid decline in the order and civility that exists in society. To kill chivalry is to kill common decency and the very idea of humanity as we know it.